Saturday, October 17

Self-disclosure

Self-disclosure is sharing information with others. By sharing information, we become more intimate with other people and our interpersonal relationship is strengthened. When you share information with somebody self-disclosure involves risk. It is way of gaining information about another person. Self-disclosure is one way to learn about how another person thinks and feels.
Mutual disclosure deepens trust in the relationships and helps both people understand each other more. And you feel better about yourself and your relationship when other person accepts what you tell them. There are several advantages and also risks. One risk is person willn't respond favorably to the information. Another risk is that the other person will gain power in the relationship because of the information they possess.
Too much self-disclosure that comes too early relationship can damage the relationship. It is important to know that self-disclosure doesn't involve dumping everything about yourself on everyone from close friends to complete strangers. When speaking to groups, it's always good to share a little about yourself as a person.
Self-disclosure can improve intimacy, face to face communication, even improve public speaking and connecting with groups. Many questions about how people decide to disclose or remain private and helps us better understand the process within romantic relationships, marriage, and families.

Thursday, October 15

positive aspects &negative aspects of comflict

conflict can be categorized into 2 aspects:
-positive aspects of conflict
-negative aspects of conflict

The Positive aspects of conflict are:
-examine problem&work towards potential solution
-each states own needs
-show the ability to resolve conflict

the negative aspect of conflict are:
-increased negative feeling of opponent
-depletion of our energy
-close off self to other party
-leads to further conflict, hurt and resentment.



Public relationship

Public relationship is communication between organization and its publics. It gains organization or individual exposure to audiences using topics of public interest and news. Public relations include communication dialogue, action and evalution.


It include a very high level of communication skills, written and verbal. Organizational and planning skills are also important in public relations. The public often think that public relationship is glamorous job. In public relationship people seem to have been tarred with partying and networking to find new contacts.
But in reality is usually long hours and hardwork for anyone involved in public relations. They must have the ability to cope with a barrage of questions from the media and the public.

5 types of conflict styles

do you ever facing conflict with your family members???

there are 5 conflict styles

1.competing(i win you lose)
2.avoiding(i lose you lose)
3. accommodating(i lose you win )
4.collaborating(i win you win)
5.compromising(i win&you lose, you win&i lose)

i feel that the difficult conflict styles is collaborating(i win you win)

people in this world do not like to lose,
they will only want to win.

when they are facing conflict
they might only think that the other side need to apologize them


Monday, October 12

Evaluation ! Evaluation !! Evaluation !!!

Evaluation is the judgment you give after some satisfied evaluation on a person.
To be able to make justice to a conflict, you need to evaluate well !
For example...
Wrong words ---------------------------- Correct words

1. They We
2. You Me
3. All of them All of us.....etc
I realized that when we get ourselves involve in that situation, we tend to have a rethink on the decisions because whichever decision or judgement we make will affect us. Thank you!

Misunderstanding VS Conflict

Conflict are normal occurrence in life and once we understand some principles of conflict we won't go wrong.
A times conflict might be needed to define a good and balance relationship.
Though am not encouraging conflict but most times when i have a misunderstanding with my friends, I make sure I think and narrow it down..... I do ask myself this questions: 1. what caused the misunderstanding and 2: How to resolve it?
And once I realize the cause of the misunderstanding, then the conflict will be resolved.........
So, a times It's because we can not solve our misunderstanding that brings about the conflict...... That means, Conflict can be a choice and can just happen if one party is not ready to listen to the other!!!

Sunday, October 11

LOVE STYLES

In chapter 6, we can learn that love comes with many types.
Love like friends, friends can categorized into different types, love also can distinguish into many types.
There are:
1. eros love (seek beauty and sensuality,focuses on physical attractiveness)
2. Ludic love (treat love as fun, entertainment and excitement)
3. Storge love (peaceful and tranquil love,to establish companionable relationship)
4. Pragma love ( practical and traditional, seek for compatibility)
5. Manic love (needs to give and receive constant attention and affection)
6. Agapic love (Compassionate and selfness love)

So, Which types of love are you? Can you identify it?
To my personal opinion, love should not be the ludic love.
For example,when your lover love you and be together with you is just for funs,it might a hurt to you.

CONFLICT

Interpersonal conflict is defined as the disagreement between or among connected individual, such as lovers, family members and friends.
Sometimes, conflict happened when someone disagreed the another opinion.
There are some causes of the conflict that usually happened:
1. intimacy issues
2. power issues
3. personal flaws issues
4. personal distance issues
5. social issues
6. distrust issues

Conclusion, can we avoid conflict?
Yes, or maybe no.
Sometimes, Conflict can improve each other relationship, sometimes it might affect relationship. So, we should manage and resolve the conflict well.

friendship

FRIENDSHIP is something that are important to all of us...
true friend are not easily for us to find in this world,
but we wanted to have a true friend...

majority friendship will only share the happiness but not the difficulties with us.

True friend will share whatever they have with us such as,
happiness
sadness
difficulties
and many other.....

when i was form 3,
i thought i had already find a true friend....

this is because we are friend since form 2
and form3 until form 5 we are in the same class.
we also sit beside each others...

At First...
we will share many happiness and difficulties to each other...
BUT
gradually,
she starting to tell many lie to me
and all the lie had let me know that she is telling lie to me....
she had done this many times to me...

this sometimes bring many trouble to me...
i felt very disappointed to her...

after that i started not to believe to her anymore....

start at that time i have no true friend anymore:-(