appearance

if a person are interested to be a friend with a girl or a boy,

the boy/girl must have somethings that attractive the girl / boy .

people that live in this word are very realistic,

they might want to be friend with you,

you must have somethings that attractive them.

many example have occur in our daily life such as,

a boy want to be friend to a girl maybe

is because the beauty of the girl had attractive the boy or vice-versa.

this is also a kind of non-verbal communication that almost every occurs in our daily life..

eYe ContaCt

when the 1st day i came to HELP UNIVERSITY COLLEGE,

and knew some friends,

my first reaction is look at their non-verbal language,

and determine what kind of people my new friends is.

everyone will communicate will others by non-verbal language,

they will show face expression, gesture, eye movement & also other ..

when we are communicating, we often show out the eye communication.

eye contact is important in our communication in our daily life.

eye contact show the communication between the speaker and the listener,

while the eye contact sometimes also will show out some respect between the speaker and the listener.

i feel that if someone communicate with other with no eye contact,

this cannot bring out effective communication between a group or even 2 people.

Facts, Inference and Opinion.

Nowadays, people make the mistakes of referring to inferences and opinions has the facts because, Inferences are derived from our opinions and so it brings people to the conclusion that it is the facts because It has some reflection of the facts in it...

Here are my own Personal Definition of:

Facts

Is simply something that has been proven to be true, it stands has it is and never change.

Inferences

It's an assumption and most times it is mistakenly taken for the facts.

Probably because it has some little reflection from the main fact itself.

Opinions

This is a personal thought you give to something.

It can also be refers to has you own points of view on an issue.

It's all about YOU !!!

To be able to use verbal messages effectively,

We need to know that the meaning we give to language

has got a very powerful effect on it....

Last week in class, My lecturer was talking about the

effective power of language.

he said:" meaning lies in people not in word"

I believe that because the personal meaning you

give to a word determines the kind of effect it

will have on you! Because it all about you to accept

a thing has it is or change it to the way you want it to be....... Thank you!

How to be a better listener

Hearing & Listening

• Hearing= sensing spoken messages from their sources
• Listening= a complex process of communication
• Successful listening= listener understands speaker's message

Listening have sensation, interpretation, evalution and reaction stages. These stages take messages and back to speaker.

1. Sensation- ears pick up sound waves and transmit to the brain
2. Interpretation - listener attach meaning to message
3. Evaluation- what you feel about the message
4. Reaction- giving direct feedback through comments or questions

Active listening enables you to take in information during class discussions, lectures. If you want to be an active listener you have to pay attention to verbal signposts, ask questions, make sure you understand what you hear.

It is good to be a empathic listener

Empathic listening is refers to trying to understand what a person means and what a person feels.
Nowadays,people are busy with their work, they even less communicate with each others although they are neighbours. In this busy city, people are less communicate when they no work. This condition shows that people now are less empathize to each other.

Empathic listening will help somebody enhance relationships.
Besides that, when somebody express his/her empathy, he/she could help another one to feeling his/her caring. This is a good condition.
When somebody is in trouble,empathic listener could be a good helper.

So, why we don't be a empathic listener?

There are some steps to empathic listening:
1. Understand the speaker's point of view
2. Engage in equal,two way conversation
3. Understand both thoughts and feelings
4. practise to effective listening
5. practise to objective listening(detaching oneself in order to best understand the speaker)

AGEISM

Ageism is the term that refer to prejudice against other age groups.
there are two types of Ageism:
1. individual ageism
--the general disrespect(especially for older people and their negative stereotypes.

2. institutional ageism
--can be seen in mandatory retirement laws and age restrictions in certain occupations.

Besides that, there are people who express their ageism with linguistic.
For examples, 'little old lady' , 'out dated','old-timer','over the hill'and so on.

Apart from that,there are also people who show their ageism nonverbally.
For examples, he/she avoid touching/speaking to an older person. He/she avoid asking something to an older person.

In conclusion,we are not encouraged to be prejudiced against older person. We should avoid ageism not only by reaction ,but also linguistic. When we respect to others people, people also will respect us no matter who r us..

How to communicate effectively

In any effective talk you must do three things:

1. Communicate your arguments and evidence

2. Persuade your audience that they are true

3. Be interesting and enteresting

When you talk it makes you easier to listen to and understand what people are saying. Allows you to make genuine contact with your audience. Ultimately helps you to think more clearly by forcing you to communicate your points in ordinary terms. Everyone has their own communication style. Communication is defined as a process by we assign and convey meaning in an attempt to create shared understanding. In nonverbal communication you act without using spoken words. It is important to understand body language because nonverbal cues shade meaning, culture influences how body language is interpreted, influences first impression. When you talk with someone sometimes conflict and anger occur because of clash of ideas or interests, that why you mustn't be aggressive or passive and calming anger is important in resolving conflict.